So earlier today, Andy showed me this article about how someone or some group of people in Sweden “advertised for” Chris Brown’s upcoming tour by using pictures of Rihanna’s face. You know, the famous pictures of her, beaten by her boyfriend, to the point of being completely unrecognizable, from 2009.
While I’m not sure that was the best way to steer people clear of the tour (in favor of Rihanna’s privacy and whatnot), I feel the same way. It baffles me to no end that he still has fans, and especially female ones. I’ve been meaning to get this off my chest for some time now, and I really don’t know what I was waiting for in putting it off. So here it is. My short (sort of) and sweet (not even a little) rant on my absolute distaste for Chris Brown and everything he is and does:
I loathe Chris Brown. Not only did he beat the living hell out of a woman he claimed to “love” until she was literally unrecognizable, but when he came back into the public eye, a mere two years later, instead of having an attitude of humility and thankfulness that ANYONE was willing to listen to his music anymore, he had the disgusting attitude of, more or less, “EAT MY ASS, EVERYONE, cuz I can beat up a woman and she comes right back to me, and millions of women still love me!”
It disgusts me, as a survivor of abuse in two different relationships, and of sexual abuse in one of them, that the public has generally welcomed him back onto the A-list so warmly, and with arms wide open. I am appalled by the lack of self-worth that oozed from every tweet while he performed at the Grammys last year, things like, “I would let Chris Brown beat me all night long!”
As I watched the award show that night, I sat on the couch and chewed my cheeks until they bled, in utter rage, and I just wept that someone who could do that could be so warmly welcomed back to a show like that so quickly…or at all. The only way I could describe it to my husband, when he asked why it upset me SO BADLY, was that it was like seeing the “man” who used to hit ME, performing up on that stage, to the adoration of millions of girls who were…willing to let him beat them until they needed to be hospitalized?! WHERE IS THEIR SELF WORTH?!
And to anyone who argues, “Well, Rihanna found a way to forgive him…” um, yeah, that’s how the cycle of abuse works. I went crawling back to BOTH of the “men” who physically assaulted me. Multiple times. For years, my mother was a case worker for a domestic abuse prevention agency/safe house. Do you know what the recidivism rate if for abusers who seek treatment? Ninety-seven percent. That means that out of one hundred men who abuse their partners, and are then TREATED BY A PROFESSIONAL to stop the pattern, NINETY-SEVEN OF THAT ONE HUNDRED will go back to beating their significant others in future relationships.
I thought about censoring this, or trying to write it in a way that was a little more politically correct, but there is NOTHING about Chris Brown or his behavior that deserves any kind of justification or defense. Beating your significant other, whether you’re male or female, is not a DEFENDABLE ACT, and you CERTAINLY shouldn’t be lauded and drooled over and even WELCOMED to beat more women just because you can sing and dance.
And I am far from the only person who feels this way.
Miranda Lambert, for example, has my back, and once again, in their feud, Chris Brown shows how absolutely revolting he is, calling anyone who brings attention to the fact that he put a woman in the hospital “stuck in the past,” and implying he can do whatever he wants because he got a couple little golden statues.
Seth Rogen calls attention to the back-ass-ward-ness of it all when he hosts the Spirit Awards (starts at 5:30).
Robin Roberts addressed his past in a Good Morning America interview, and got this reaction:
You’d think he would learn that you don’t just beat the shit out of someone you’re dating and expect everyone to just forget it, but apparently, he’s too stupid for that, or something.
And this one is my absolute favorite. I can’t even add anything to what Andy Levy says about the atrocity that is Chris Brown’s acceptance back into the limelight, because it’s so perfect, and if I had the writing/delivery chops this guy does, I would have LOVED to be the one to give this apology to Chris Brown.
I’ve debated for a long time writing this post at all, because usually, I’m the one saying that to truly take away the power that people who annoy me (or anyone else) have, you should just ignore them. For instance, I despise the entire Kardashian clan with a passion, but you won’t hear me ranting about them, because that’s just giving them more of what they want – free, word-of-mouth publicity. Same with Charlie Sheen (for similar reasons to Chris Brown) and LeAnn Rimes (because she and her new husband cheated on their now-ex spouses to be together, and they want the world to adore them as a couple? Not going to happen). I wouldn’t rant about and protest these people because they just want the attention. Simply take away the attention, ignore them, and they lose their power.
Chris Brown, though…I’m sorry (no I’m not), but beating the person you’re dating is a whole other level of despicable.
There’s my soapbox.